Test Result
The Aggressive Style
“You have a powerful engine and a drive for results, but your intensity may unintentionally push people away.”
Your overall pattern
You operate with High Intensity. You view the world as a place where you must fight to be heard, and you are determined not to be the victim. Your communication style is Aggressive, which often means you prioritize "being right" or "getting results" over the feelings of the people involved.
This doesn't mean you are a "bad person." It often means you have a high drive for efficiency and a low tolerance for ambiguity. You might feel that if you don't take the wheel, the car will crash. However, your strength can feel like a weapon to those around you, causing them to shut down rather than open up.
"True power is not controlling others; it is controlling your own reaction."
Typical behaviors
- Interrupting: You often finish people's sentences because you feel they are moving too slowly.
- "You" Statements: You focus on what the other person did wrong (e.g., "You always forget this"), which triggers defensiveness.
- Winning the Argument: In a conflict, your goal is often victory/submission rather than mutual understanding.
Strengths in this pattern
- Decisiveness: In a crisis, you are the one who takes charge and gets things moving while others are frozen.
- Clarity: No one ever has to guess what you want. You are honest and direct, which can be refreshing in a world of ambiguity.
Common pitfalls
The lonely victory:
- Erosion of Trust: People may comply with you out of fear, not respect. This leads to isolation.
- Missing Information: Because others are afraid to speak up, you often miss critical feedback or ideas that could help you.
"Reflection point: Do I want to be right, or do I want to be in a relationship?"
What you can do next
Small actions you can start today
- The 3-Second Rule: When you want to interrupt, count to three. Let silence do the heavy lifting.
- Ask, Don't Tell: Instead of saying "This is wrong," try asking, "What was your thought process here?"
Longer-term directions
- Empathy Mapping: Actively try to name the emotion the other person is feeling before you respond to their logic.
- Vulnerability: Experiment with admitting when you are unsure or worried. It makes you more approachable, not weaker.
Disclaimer and when to seek help
This test is for educational purposes. If your communication style is damaging your career or family relationships, or involves physical intimidation, please consult a behavioral health specialist or counselor.