Your patterns in close relationships are more blended, flexible, or still shifting over time.
Your overall pattern
Your scores suggest that you do not strongly match one classic attachment style. Instead, you may show features of several patterns, or your tendencies might change with context: one way with partners, another with friends or family; one way when stressed, another when life is calmer. This can reflect genuine flexibility, ongoing personal growth, or a transitional phase as your expectations about relationships evolve.
Typical patterns in your relationships
In everyday interactions
- Sometimes you feel comfortable and secure; at other times you may worry about being too much or not enough.
- You might notice that your behavior depends a lot on who you are with and how safe that relationship feels.
- You may find it hard to predict your own reactions in relationships because different situations trigger different sides of you.
In conflict or under stress
- In some conflicts, you may stay calm and willing to talk; in others, you might either shut down or become more reactive.
- Your response can depend heavily on the other person’s style—some people bring out your more secure side; others trigger anxiety or avoidance.
- You may be actively trying to change old patterns, which can temporarily make things feel uneven or experimental.
In closeness, distance, and long-term bonds
- At times you may enjoy closeness and commitment, and at other times you might question whether you want to pull back.
- You might be cautious with long-term decisions because you know your feelings can shift.
- You may be in the process of re-learning what relationships can be like, especially if past experiences were mixed.
Your strengths
- You likely have capacity for flexibility and growth, rather than being stuck at one extreme.
- You may already be reflective about your patterns, given that they do not neatly fit a simple label.
- You can adapt your approach based on context and feedback, which is a powerful skill.
- As you become more aware of your triggers, you can combine the best parts of different styles: care, independence, and healthy boundaries.
- You may be especially open to learning and practicing new relational skills.
Common pitfalls or misunderstandings
- Not fitting a clear category can leave you feeling uncertain about who you are in relationships, or fearing that you are inconsistent.
- Others might misread your shifting reactions as “hot and cold” or “indecisive,” when you are actually responding to context.
- You may judge yourself harshly for still having anxious or avoidant moments, even if you are making progress overall.
- You might hope that one test will give you a final, fixed label, when in fact your pattern is more dynamic and changing.
What you can do next
Small actions you can start today
- Notice what brings out your more secure side: people, settings, behaviors, or routines that help you feel steady and respected.
- When you react strongly (by clinging, withdrawing, or shutting down), gently ask: “What just got triggered for me? Is this about now, or also about earlier experiences?”
- Share with a trusted person that you are actively working on your attachment patterns, and describe one small request that would help you (for example, clearer communication, more notice before plans change).
Mid-term directions for growth
- Keep a simple log of when you feel more secure vs. more anxious or avoidant, to see patterns over time.
- Strengthen relationships where you experience consistency, respect, and emotional safety, and set firmer boundaries where your needs are repeatedly ignored.
- Learn more about all attachment styles, not to pin yourself to a box, but to borrow healthy strategies that move you toward greater security.
- If you choose, therapy or coaching can support this transitional work, helping you integrate your experiences into a more coherent, compassionate picture of yourself.
When to seek help
This result highlights that your attachment pattern is mixed or in motion, not that something is wrong with you. Attachment is shaped by experience and can change across the lifespan. If, however, your relationship patterns are causing ongoing distress, frequent panic, deep loneliness, self-harm thoughts, or keep you in unsafe or abusive situations, please seek professional help. A mental health professional can help you understand your history, strengthen your secure tendencies, and support you in building healthier, safer connections.