Attachment Style Test: Why Do You Love the Way You Do?
Relationships
Take this free Attachment Style Test to discover your relationship patterns. Are you Secure, Anxious, or Avoidant? Uncover your hidden emotional blueprint today.
Have you ever wondered why you consistently react the same way in relationships, even with different partners? Maybe you find yourself constantly checking your phone, panicked that a delayed text means the end of the relationship. Or perhaps you feel an overpowering urge to run away and shut down the moment someone tries to get close to you. These reactions aren't random, and they aren't "failures" of character. They are echoes of your emotional history.
This Attachment Style Test is designed to help you decode that history. By mapping your subconscious reactions to intimacy and independence, this assessment provides a mirror to your inner world. It moves you from asking "What is wrong with me?" to understanding "How does my system work?"—giving you the clarity needed to build healthier, more secure connections.
Understanding your attachment style is often the "missing piece" for people struggling to find peace in their relationships. By taking this test, you can expect to gain:
This assessment is rooted in Attachment Theory, one of the most extensively researched frameworks in psychology. Originally developed by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, and later expanded for adults by researchers like Hazan, Shaver, and Fraley, the theory posits that the bonds we formed with our earliest caregivers create a "blueprint" for how we perceive safety and love in adulthood.
This test helps you answer questions like:
Our test is built upon the principles of the Experiences in Close Relationships-Revised (ECR-R) inventory, which is widely considered the gold standard in social psychology for measuring adult attachment. Unlike simple quizzes that put you in a box, this model measures your position on two continuums.
Instead of a single label, we measure two core underlying dimensions:
Your unique combination of these two scores places you into one of the four attachment profiles.
The test consists of 24 items and typically takes about 5–8 minutes to complete.
You will see a series of statements about how you generally feel in romantic relationships.
Tip: Try not to overthink. Your immediate, gut-level reaction is usually the most accurate reflection of your subconscious style.
We use a 7-point scale to capture the nuance of your feelings. Your answers are scored against the Anxiety and Avoidance dimensions. The intersection of these scores determines your dominant style (e.g., High Anxiety + Low Avoidance = Anxious-Preoccupied).
This test is especially helpful if you:
Please consider seeking professional help instead if:
We don't just give you a static label; we provide a narrative explanation of how you relate to others. Your result will classify you into one of the four standard attachment styles:
Your result page will also include:
Your attachment style is a pattern, not a permanent personality sentence. Psychology calls this "plasticity"—meaning your style can change. Identifying that you lean "Anxious" or "Avoidant" is the first step in rewiring your brain for security.
We provide actionable advice. For example, if you are Anxious, we might suggest "pausing for 10 minutes" before sending a double-text. If you are Avoidant, we might suggest sharing one small feeling a day. These small "micro-steps" slowly retrain your nervous system to tolerate intimacy and separation better.
To ensure the accuracy of our concepts, we rely on established psychological literature:
This online test is designed for educational and self-discovery purposes only. It is based on psychological theory but is not a clinical diagnostic tool. The results should not be interpreted as a medical or psychological diagnosis. If you are experiencing significant emotional distress, relationship trauma, or mental health concerns, please consult a licensed therapist or mental health professional.
You view relationships as a safe harbor—a place where you can be yourself, trust others, and grow without fear.
You love deeply and intensely, often acting as the emotional radar in your relationships, scanning for any sign of disconnection.
You are the self-reliant solo traveler, valuing your independence and autonomy above all else to protect your inner peace.