Test Result
Storge (The Companionate Lover)
“You view love as a deep, enduring friendship—slow to burn, but incredibly stable and safe.”
Your overall pattern: The Companionate Lover (Storge)
You are the anchor of the love styles. For you, true love isn't about fireworks or drama; it's about finding a best friend you can build a life with. You likely feel uncomfortable with sudden, aggressive romance. Instead, you prefer a relationship that unfolds naturally over time, rooted in shared interests, mutual trust, and deep familiarity.
You don't just want a lover; you want a partner in crime. Your love is quiet but unshakeable. While others are riding emotional rollercoasters, you are building a house on a rock. You value loyalty above almost anything else.
"Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction." — Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
Typical behaviors
- Friends First: You often fall for people you have known for a long time.
- Low Drama: You prefer resolving conflicts through reason and compromise rather than screaming matches or passionate make-ups.
- Long-term Focus: You assume commitment is the default; you play for keeps.
Strengths in this pattern
- Stability: You offer a profound sense of safety and security to your partners.
- Durability: Your relationships are often the longest-lasting because they are built on the solid foundation of friendship.
Common pitfalls
Safety can sometimes feel like stagnation.
- The "Roommate" Trap: Because you are so comfortable, the romantic or sexual spark can fade if not actively maintained.
- Predictability: You might resist new experiences or spontaneity, which can make the relationship feel routine.
"Reflection point: Is my relationship too predictable? How can I introduce a little mystery or surprise this week?"
What you can do next
Small actions you can start today
- Plan a date night that involves something new rather than your usual routine (e.g., a new restaurant or activity).
- Verbally express affection; don't just assume your partner knows you love them because you're still there.
Longer-term directions
- Recognize that passion is a habit, not just an accident. actively cultivate romance alongside friendship.
- Be patient with partners who need more verbal reassurance or "romance" than you do; they aren't being dramatic, they just speak a different language.
Disclaimer and when to seek help
This test describes behavioral patterns for educational purposes only. If you find yourself staying in unhappy relationships simply because they are comfortable or familiar, consider seeking professional perspective.