Love Styles Test: Which of the 6 Love Archetypes Are You?

Have you ever wondered why love feels like a high-speed rollercoaster for you, while for your partner it feels like a calm, steady walk in the park? Or perhaps you’ve been called "too intense" or "too detached," leaving you questioning if there is a "right" way to love.

The truth is, there is no single definition of love. We all carry a unique emotional DNA that dictates how we connect, how we interpret affection, and what we need to feel safe. This Love Styles Test is designed to decode that DNA. By understanding your specific pattern, you can stop blaming yourself for your natural instincts and start building relationships that honor who you actually are.

How can this Love Styles Test help you?

Relationships often fail not because of a lack of love, but because of a mismatch in styles. This assessment acts as a translator for your heart.

• Clarify Your Needs: Understand why you crave constant reassurance—or why you suffocate without freedom.
• Reduce Friction: Stop misinterpreting your partner’s behavior as rejection when it might just be a different "language" of love.
• Validate Your Experience: Realize that your approach to romance—whether practical, passionate, or selfless—is a recognized psychological archetype, not a flaw.
• Compatibility Insights: Learn which styles tend to harmonize with yours and which ones might trigger your insecurities.

What is the Love Styles Test about?

This test is grounded in the "Color Wheel Theory of Love" developed by sociologist John Alan Lee. Just as there are primary colors that mix to create every shade in the spectrum, Lee identified primary and secondary "styles" of loving.

Unlike other personality tests that box you into a static category, this framework acknowledges that your love style can shift over time or change depending on the partner you are with.

This test helps you answer questions like:

• "Is it normal to fall in love this fast?"
• "Am I cold for viewing relationships logically?"
• "Why do I always feel anxious when I'm in love?"
• "Is my need for deep friendship before romance valid?"

How is this test designed?

Theory and measurement foundations

Our assessment is adapted from the research surrounding the Love Attitudes Scale (LAS), pioneered by researchers Hendrick & Hendrick, who operationalized Lee’s theory into a measurable scientific tool. It moves beyond the popular "Five Love Languages" (which focus on communication) to look at the deeper attitudes and beliefs that drive your romantic behaviors.

Which dimensions does this test look at?

The test measures your alignment with the six famous Greek concepts of love:

• Eros: The drive for passion and intensity.
• Ludus: The desire for fun and freedom.
• Storge: The need for friendship and stability.
• Pragma: The reliance on logic and compatibility.
• Mania: The experience of emotional highs and lows.
• Agape: The capacity for selfless giving.

How does this test work in practice?

Number of items and approximate time

The test consists of 30 items and typically takes about 10 minutes to complete.

How to answer

Tip: Answer based on your general history of relationships, not just your current mood or a single unique relationship. Be honest about how you truly feel, not how you think a "good partner" should feel.

How do we calculate your results?

We use a summation scoring method across the six dimensions. Your answers on a 7-point scale reveal your dominant style—the "color" that paints most of your romantic life. While everyone has a mix of these traits, this test identifies your primary setting.

Who is this test for?

This test is especially helpful if you:

• Are currently single and want to understand why past relationships didn't work.
• Are in a relationship and want to bridge a gap in understanding with your partner.
• Are considering a long-term commitment and want to check your compatibility values.
• Simply enjoy psychology and self-exploration.

Please consider seeking professional help instead if:

• You are currently in an abusive or violent relationship.
• You are experiencing severe distress, depression, or an inability to function due to a breakup.
• You feel an obsessive need to control your partner that is ruining your life.

What will you see in your results? (Preview)

We don't just give you a label; we provide a narrative that explains your emotional worldview. Your result will classify you into one of the six authoritative archetypes:

1. Eros (The Passionate Lover): You value chemistry, intense emotional connection, and romance. You likely believe in love at first sight.
2. Ludus (The Playful Lover): You view love as an adventure. You value independence, fun, and keeping things light, often avoiding heavy commitment.
3. Storge (The Companionate Lover): You value deep friendship and trust. For you, love is a slow-burning fire that grows out of familiarity.
4. Pragma (The Practical Lover): You approach love with logic. You look for a partner who fits your life goals, shared values, and long-term plans.
5. Mania (The Obsessive Lover): You love with high intensity but often struggle with insecurity, jealousy, and a need for constant reassurance.
6. Agape (The Altruistic Lover): You view love as self-sacrifice. You prioritize your partner’s happiness above your own, often giving unconditionally.

Your result page will also include:

• Core Strengths: The unique gifts you bring to a relationship.
• Common Pitfalls: The specific "traps" your style falls into (e.g., burnout for Agape, boredom for Ludus).
• Actionable Advice: Steps to balance your style for a healthier love life.

What can you do with your results?

Treat the result as a mirror, not a verdict

Your love style is not a life sentence. It is a starting point. If you find you are high in Mania, it doesn't mean you are "broken"—it means you have a sensitive attachment system that needs safety. If you are Pragma, it doesn't mean you are unfeeling—it means you value security.

Small actions and longer-term directions

Use this knowledge to communicate better. Instead of saying "You don't love me," you can say, "My Eros style really needs verbal affirmation to feel connected, whereas I know your Storge style shows love by doing the grocery shopping."

References & further reading

To ensure the accuracy of our definitions, we reference the following authoritative psychological frameworks:

1. The Colors of Love (Theory): Lee, J. A. (1973). The Colors of Love: An Exploration of the Ways of Loving. New Press.
2. Love Attitudes Scale (Measurement): Hendrick, C., & Hendrick, S. S. (1986). A theory and method of love. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.
3. Psychology Today: The 6 Styles of Love
4. Verywell Mind: What Are the Different Types of Love?
5. Positive Psychology: The Love Attitudes Scale: A Look at the 6 Love Styles

Disclaimer

This test is designed for educational and self-discovery purposes only. It is not a clinical diagnostic tool and should not be used as a substitute for professional psychological advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The "Mania" style, while a standard sociological category, can sometimes overlap with anxiety disorders; if you are experiencing significant emotional distress, please consult a licensed mental health professional.