Emotional Availability Test: Are you truly open to connection?
Relationships
Take the free Emotional Availability Test to explore your capacity for intimacy. Discover if your pattern is Available, Guarded, or Detached, and how to deepen your bonds.
We often think of "availability" as simply being physically present. But have you ever sat next to someone and felt miles away? Or perhaps you are the one who feels a sudden urge to shut down or "check out" when a conversation gets too heavy?
Emotional availability is the hidden current that determines whether a relationship feels like a struggle or a sanctuary. It is the capacity to share your own inner world while remaining receptive to someone else’s. This test is designed to help you see your own patterns—not to judge them, but to understand the logic behind why you connect (or protect) the way you do.
This assessment is not a medical diagnosis; it is a mirror. By taking 7 minutes to reflect on your default reactions, you can gain:
At its heart, this test measures two vital flows of connection:
This assessment draws inspiration from the pioneering work of Dr. Zeynep Biringen (Emotional Availability Scales) and Attachment Theory. It adapts clinical observations of "dyadic connection" into a self-reflective format for adults, focusing on the quality of emotional exchange rather than just personality traits.
Tip: Answer based on your instinctive reaction, not how you "wish" you would act. If you usually withdraw during a fight but wish you stayed, answer based on the withdrawal. Honesty yields the most useful results.
We use a 7-point scale to measure the intensity of your responses. Your total score maps your "connection style" onto a spectrum ranging from highly open/secure to highly self-protective/detached.
This test is especially helpful if you:
Please consider seeking professional help instead if:
We don't just give you a number; we provide a narrative that explains why you act the way you do. Your result will fall into one of three primary patterns:
Emotionally Available
Guarded / Inconsistent
Detached
Every result page includes specific Strengths, Common Pitfalls, and Actionable Steps to help you move forward.
Your score is not a character flaw; it is a habit. Many of us learned to be "Detached" or "Guarded" because it was the safest way to survive in the past. This test is simply checking if that armor is still serving you today.
Whether you want to learn how to "stay in the room" during conflict or how to express a need without sarcasm, your result page will offer 3–4 concrete exercises you can try immediately.
The content provided by this Emotional Availability Test is for educational and informational purposes only. It suggests behavioral patterns based on self-reported data and does not constitute a clinical diagnosis, medical advice, or professional psychological evaluation. If you are experiencing significant relationship distress, anxiety, or mental health challenges, please consult a licensed therapist or counselor.